Mistakes — calamities or teachable moments

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There seems to be a great deal of energy and anxiety around the issue of “mistakes.” I have noticed that we often judge ourselves and others quite severely when mistakes are made. What piqued my interest in this was how someone’s mood or state of mind could plummet so dramatically with what seemed like a simple accident, a slight error in judgment. So, what can we make of this hypersensitivity to making a … [Read more...]

Criticism and compliments, flip sides of the same coin

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A few years ago a colleague and I were attending a workshop in Toronto and in the course of the conversation the subject of criticism came up. The question asked was, “How do you see criticism in terms of an inside-out reality? How do you not take it personally?” As we discussed the concept of impersonal thinking it became clear that our response to criticism was no different than our response to any other life … [Read more...]

It’s just not fair

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I was recently having a very interesting conversation with a friend when the subject of fairness came up. Fairness, which seems like a value that most of us would hold dear, evolved into a philosophical discussion that not only surprised me but led to a deeper insight about the inside-out nature of life. Fairness had been a cornerstone of my friend’s dealings both in business and in his personal life. However, in … [Read more...]

Forgiveness — what does it really mean?

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When I think about forgiveness I tend to think of the old adage, “forgive and forget.” In my mind, unless I could forget the transgression, however large or small, I hadn’t really forgiven the perceived offender. According to the dictionary, forgiveness means to excuse or to pardon. No mention of “forgetting.” Given that there’s now an understanding of the inside-out nature of life, i.e. the fact that it’s not … [Read more...]

Keeping your calm

What we experience as chaos varies from one person to the next. For one person, the most minor change in schedule or in environment is enough to throw them into a frenzy. For others they’re comfortable with change and multi-tasking, and only major breakdowns are seen as chaotic. If one person misplaces their airline ticket it’s a challenge that can be remedied. For another it’s a major calamity. As we observe the … [Read more...]